Yeah. People pleasing is a disease and it leads nowhere. It may feel good but the MAIN ISSUE is people become overly dependent on you. It becomes a bottleneck in the long run. What happens when you leave? Now there is someone else who needs to take over and get up to speed.
I like the ol' politely decline and delegate part 😁.
You are such a legend. As someone who’s about to start his tech career, thank you for this! I can see exactly how these things could hold someone back from growing their career- it seems like it all falls into non-promotable work
Interesting ideas, but I disagree. 'Productive friction' sounds great, in many organizations, managers prioritize psychological safety and smooth execution. Need to be careful with the level of disagreement.
Finding the delicate balance to push back is an art. As an SDM, I can easily tell who´s applying critical thinking and challenging back in a healthy way, not only me, but other leaders, and I highly appreciate it, vs engineers that ¨run smoothly¨ within their scope. I also recommend to get a periodic pulse check with your manager, and ask for their view of your ¨push back balance¨ or whether the friction is productive or not.
Yeah. People pleasing is a disease and it leads nowhere. It may feel good but the MAIN ISSUE is people become overly dependent on you. It becomes a bottleneck in the long run. What happens when you leave? Now there is someone else who needs to take over and get up to speed.
I like the ol' politely decline and delegate part 😁.
You are such a legend. As someone who’s about to start his tech career, thank you for this! I can see exactly how these things could hold someone back from growing their career- it seems like it all falls into non-promotable work
Interesting ideas, but I disagree. 'Productive friction' sounds great, in many organizations, managers prioritize psychological safety and smooth execution. Need to be careful with the level of disagreement.
Finding the delicate balance to push back is an art. As an SDM, I can easily tell who´s applying critical thinking and challenging back in a healthy way, not only me, but other leaders, and I highly appreciate it, vs engineers that ¨run smoothly¨ within their scope. I also recommend to get a periodic pulse check with your manager, and ask for their view of your ¨push back balance¨ or whether the friction is productive or not.